In this blog post, I will focus primarily on the struggles I’ve faced in managing and achieving my goals, as well as what I’ve learned from it.
Less is better
When it comes to managing and achieving goals, I’ve found that less is better.
I used to have many goals (which I used to share on my blog in the Skills Development List page) but then found that I felt like I was being pulled into too many different directions. By having too many goals that I was simultaneously working towards, it meant that I often didn’t get things done – things were often constantly ongoing. This was rather tiring.
Once I decided to focus on fewer goals at a time, then I could actually start celebrating that I had achieved some goals.
Frame it differently
One of my personal goals used to be to lose weight. The thing is, I found that (as a horribly impatient person), there was too much of a delay between action and result. As someone who loved good (bad for you) food, hopping on the scale a week after being “good” and seeing a disappointing number in the scale would really get to me.
However, since I had my daughter, my focus hasn’t been on losing weight but on my waist line and my progress pictures. I realised that weight is just a number on a scale (Proof of this is that recently I lost about a kg in a month but also lost 8cm from my waist and the progress pictures clearly show a difference after 4 weeks).
Another way I have decided to frame it differently is to focus on my daily and weekly water, food and exercise goals to live a healthier lifestyle – which then ultimately feeds into reducing my waist line and helping me see progress in my progress pictures.
Remind myself of the ‘why’ constantly
For the longer term goals, I would sometimes forget why I set them in the first place. It felt like a “past Nicola” had set something for me that was no longer relevant, and if it was actually no longer relevant or important to me, then I would stop working towards that goal. But often I just needed a little reminder of the ‘why’.
When times get tough (e.g. lack of time or I hit a speed bump), I remind myself of why I am working towards that goal. When I initially set goals, I tell myself why it is important to me, and why I want to achieve it – but I\’ve found that reminding myself of the ‘why’ helps me get back on track and gives me the push I need to keep going.